I have a confession to make - I have a bit of a potty mouth. 🫣

Mainly, when I am really passionate about things, I can tend to let a few swear words slip. Never directed at other people, but potty mouth, nonetheless.  Recently, my daughter introduced a ‘Swear Jar’ into our household. A jar that gets filled with coins at the drop of the S or F-bomb. We agreed that the money would be donated to a charity of the girls' choice. What a cute gesture, I thought, so I welcomed the concept.

Until, after the first month, I quickly realised it was ME who seemed to be contributing more than my fair share (doing my bit for charity!) Surprisingly, this new family ritual shone a spotlight on my behaviour and provided an opportunity to be a lot more intentional about my choice of words.

Just like the swear jar was a great strategy for reflection, sometimes we need to take stock of our current connections and reflect on who is filling our ‘Relationship Kitty’.

Because not all connections or relationships are made equal! 🤯

Every relationship either fills up your "relationship kitty" or drains it dry. The good ones help you learn, give you someone to lean on, or leverage opportunities. The dodgy ones? They doubt you, drain your energy, or derail your progress. The trick is auditing your connections and getting intentional about building relationships that actually stick. Stop leaving it to chance!

"Not all connections or relationships are made equal! We need to reflect on how much value an individual or relationship adds (deposits) to how you feel or behave. Or are they a drain on you (a withdrawal), mentally or emotionally?"

Actionable Tips:

  1. 📊 Audit your connections: List your top 15 personal and professional connections and rate them 1-10 for the value they add to your life

  2. ⚖️ Identify deposits vs withdrawals: Categorise each relationship - do they help you learn, lean, leverage OR doubt, drain, derail?

  3. 🔄 Use co-connection strategies: Combine both face-to-face and digital approaches to deepen valuable relationships

  4. 🚧 Set boundaries with energy vampires: Limit time with people who consistently drain your emotional battery

  5. 📈 Invest more in deposits: Double down on relationships that genuinely add value to your growth and wellbeing

When did you last do a relationship audit? 🤔 You might be surprised by what you discover! ✅

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