I know when one of my mentoring clients recently asked me this simple, yet profound question, I felt it straight in my heart.

In fact, it kinda hurt. 

When I asked myself “Who gets the best of me?”, I’d love to say that without hesitation my response was “well, my darling husband, Muzz, of course” and even more so “my gorgeous girls, Mackenzie and Matilda, who else?”. 

But if I am 100% honest with myself, I am not sure that’s the truth.

If I answer this honestly, it’s actually my clients and my audiences (I squirm when I write this, as admitting this out loud is not something I am proud of). 

Now that doesn’t mean that I turn into a raving, nasty b!tch when I am with my family. But I recognised when I am tired, overwhelmed or low on energy (yes even I get low on energy), it’s my family who doesn’t always get the best version of me. 

The irony:

Who gets the ‘best’ of us is not always the people who mean the most to us!

With this realisation, after reflecting on this simple question, I realised that I need to get really intentional about the following:

  1. Clarity in terms of what really matters most: who & what do I value most, personally & professionally. 
  2. Prioritisation of time & energy: ensure that I am spending my valued time & energy for people & activities that matter most to me (yes that will mean having to push back at times); and  
  3. Change state & be fully present: intentionally change my energy/mood when surrounded by the people who matter most to me. This can be done by a simple shift in ‘focus’ to all the things in my world I am grateful for and being really ‘present’ when in the moment with them. 

What is the best of you look like and sound like?
Who gets the best of you?
How can you live your best you, more often?

Here’s to the people in our lives who mean the most to us, getting the best of us!

Keep smiling


BLYTHE ROWE & Her Life on Heels.

The founder and director of Human Incite, is widely recognised for her passion, energy and her ability to shake things up. Blythe is brilliant at revving-up productivity and performance in organisations. She is on a mission to rid our workplaces of toxic behaviours, build meaningful relationships, personally and professionally and create workplaces worth belonging. Her enthusiasm simply is infectious!